tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9147889412798634304.post6699572821749690524..comments2023-11-16T07:45:18.833-07:00Comments on The Reality of Anxiety: Feelings of Rejection LingeringAiméehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07915969048532920780noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9147889412798634304.post-21790584092460279912007-10-23T10:21:00.000-06:002007-10-23T10:21:00.000-06:00lauren at faitfuel,Thank you for those ideas! I tr...lauren at faitfuel,<BR/><BR/>Thank you for those ideas! I tried the journal idea and it actually gave me good dreams for a couple nights. I have to do it on a regular basis I think for it to stick. <BR/><BR/>anonymous,<BR/>How funny you should say that. Literally on Sunday I was having a conversation about how I can't believe I was one because now it seems like something I would never have the guts to do. I think that as I got older it has gotten worse. I had started cheerleading before the traumatic events I listed in here so there was already a sense of "normalcy" there. But if I had to do it again now, I don't think I would even be interested in that kind of spotlight. Too much judging.Aiméehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07915969048532920780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9147889412798634304.post-48887247914512116282007-10-23T08:34:00.000-06:002007-10-23T08:34:00.000-06:00How on earth does a child with social anxiety beco...How on earth does a child with social anxiety become a cheerleader? I don't think that's even possible.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9147889412798634304.post-82966326975133954142007-10-22T05:33:00.000-06:002007-10-22T05:33:00.000-06:00Thank you for sharing so honestly. Boy, I wish we ...Thank you for sharing so honestly. Boy, I wish we could sit down and chat so I could share with you my journey. But in a nutshell, let me share a couple suggestions about improving your dreams and choosing friends.<BR/>1. It's good to forgive (that boyfriend and that "best friend" who cheated with your boyfriend), yes. But forgiveness doesn't mean it never happened and that you are obligated to continue with them. <BR/>You need to choose higher! Choose better. I had some terrible "best friends" in jr high and high school. But later, in my adult life, one year, my sister suggested that maybe she should "pick out" who would be a good friend for me. I was surprised to have her pick a mild, nice neighbor down the street and I went ahead with making the efforts to get together. What a beautiful friendship! And we stay in touch still- even though I've moved. Conclusion: I was being drawn to the wrong kind of women and ignoring the sweet potential friends around me. Ask someone you trust to help you define who would be a good friend for you- someone with proven loyal character.<BR/><BR/>2. I still have dreams where I'm in high school and I'm lost in the hallway. (I went to a huge high school). But your dreams seem to indicate that you are repeating something (getting rejected) because you feel you have no control over it. You DO have control whether someone rejects you, to a degree, because you can start to choose men who are of a different caliber, sweet, kind, faithful. Try going to bed with a journal and just before you go to sleep, write down a scene that you believe God would bless. For example, a scene where you meet a nice guy walking his dog and you are chatting together and the sun is shining. He invites you to go for coffee. You sit down at an outdoor cafe and share the most wonderful time together. He tells you he has truly enjoyed it.<BR/>Start with a simple scene like that. Encourage your mind to believe that you can choose well and choose better. You are a beautiful person that God created and He wants you to walk with dignity in this world. (Read my post on dignity at my blog).<BR/>Hope what I've written can be helpful to you.<BR/>God bless!LAUREN at Faith Fuelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11123609025411858471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9147889412798634304.post-65031674378183433172007-10-11T13:44:00.000-06:002007-10-11T13:44:00.000-06:00Love the photos. I always promise myself I'm going...Love the photos. I always promise myself I'm going to go out and shoot some stuff, but I think there's a black hole under my sofa because I can't seem to get my arse out of it. The gravitation pull is tremendous.<BR/><BR/>Ontario is a beautiful place in the fall. You'd love it up here. Lots of things to photograph.<BR/><BR/>Nice cake, BTW!<BR/>DaveDave B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03183958748680169182noreply@blogger.com